August 29, 2023
"What is the connection between these two seemingly disconnected events:" I hear you ask.
Well Rick Rubin is perhaps best known as a record producer and one of the founders of Dej Jam Recordings — the label behind Run DMC and The Beastie Boys. He has been a producer for so many great bands from Public Enemy to Tom Petty, from LL Cool J to The Red Hot Chilli Peppers. Seriously if you're interested check the Rick Rubin production discography on Wikipedia.
Recently Rick Rubin wrote this book that was his take — or even his manifesto — on creativity. And it rung so true for me. Many moons ago, not long after that underage attendance of The Beastie Boys and Run DMC gig in Brixton, I went to art college and embarked on my journey to becoming a sculptor. But I was pretty rubbish and realised taht I probably wasn't going to make a living out of it. So I switched lanes into the world of graphic design.
Sculpture — like all art — is about doing work for you, and then if someone else thinks it's great and buys it then that's a bonus. The world of design was far more commercial as I was designing for a purpose and doing it for others, not me. What followed was 30 years of designing and writing in the world of digital media and advertising... which is how I got into the whole psychotherapy business... the link being a branding project I did for the Institute of Applied Psychology.
Today finds me running The Happy Dad Project, and reminiscing about my time at art college. And the two worlds collide here as I decided to look at Rick Rubin's book not only as an artist, but as a father and whether I could find any lessons or insights that us dads can take from "The Creative Act: A Way of Being"
Fatherhood is a unique journey that brings immense joy, fulfilling relationships, and opportunities for personal growth. However, it also can present challenges that require creative thinking, flexibility, and adaptability. While "The Creative Act: A Way of Being" offers valuable insights on creativity, mindfulness, and personal transformation for creators, I also found five lessons for dads:
Fatherhood, like life, is unpredictable and constantly evolving. According to Rubin, embracing change is essential for creativity and personal growth. As dads navigate the journey of fatherhood, they must be willing to let go of control and embrace change. By releasing attachment to fixed ideas or routines, fathers can become more adaptable, creative, and compassionate in their parenting. When faced with unexpected challenges or changes, dads can approach them with a sense of curiosity and openness rather than fear or resistance.
Rubin emphasises the importance of mindfulness and presence in the creative process. Similarly, being present and attentive is crucial for effective parenting. As dads prioritize quality time with their children, it's essential to cultivate a sense of presence and mindfulness. By being fully present with their children, fathers can create a deep sense of connection and foster a positive relationship. Mindfulness practices can also help dads manage stress, regulate emotions, and approach fatherhood with a sense of calm and clarity.
The book highlights the need for artists to embrace their authentic voice and style. Similarly, dads can benefit from embracing their genuine selves in their parenting role. By being true to themselves, fathers can create a healthy and supportive environment for their children to grow and thrive. When dads show vulnerability, express emotions openly, and demonstrate their genuine personality, they model authenticity and empower their kids to do the same.
Rubin highlights the importance of curiosity and exploration in the creative process. Similarly, fostering a sense of curiosity in fatherhood can lead to positive outcomes. By asking questions, exploring new ideas, and encouraging their children to do the same, fathers create a sense of wonder and discovery. Curiosity can also lead to creative problem-solving, innovative play, and the development of unique and meaningful experiences.
Rubin emphasises the need for artists to connect with their audience and understand their perspective. Similarly, dads can benefit from practicing empathy and compassion with their children. By focusing on their children's perspective, validating their emotions, and demonstrating empathy, fathers create a nurturing and supportive environment. Empathy and compassion can also lead to effective communication, meaningful conversations, and a deeper understanding of their children's needs and feelings.
"Fatherhood" is part of that greater collaboration "parenthood".
Collaboration is a key aspect of the creative process, and Rubin's perspectives on collaboration could be valuable. He has worked with a diverse range of artists, he has probably encountered situations that required navigating conflicts and finding common ground. His experiences may offer fathers valuable lessons on conflict resolution, compromise, and the cultivation of a collaborative and inclusive environment.
In the book he emphasizes the importance of open communication, active listening, and respect for others' ideas and contributions. He also talks about the power of diversity in collaboration, encouraging fathers to embrace and celebrate different perspectives and talents.
So there you have it — Rick Rubin's "The Creative Act: A Way of Being" may be a book about creativity, but it also offers valuable lessons for fathers in the journey of fatherhood, which can be similar to a creative journey!
By embracing change, practicing mindfulness, cultivating authenticity, fostering curiosity, and demonstrating empathy and compassion, dads can enhance their parenting skills, create meaningful relationships, and foster a positive environment for their children to grow and thrive. As dads apply these lessons, they can optimize their creativity, personal growth and set an example of healthy habits and mindset for their kids' future.
Fatherhood is a beautiful journey that requires thoughtful reflection, commitment, and a foundational desire to model positive examples for the future.
I'm sure if you take the time to read the book yourself you'll find your own perspective and see ways to help you reach your goals, enhance your family relationships, and enrich your personal well-being.
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